Jaci Dawn

I have friends who do not celebrate Christmas like I do. They don’t have all the tinsel, lights, the tree, the stockings, the Santas, the blue & the gold & the silver, the candy dishes & Holiday coffee mugs, the reindeer: they don’t go in for any of that.

These are not all my non-Christian friends. Some of them are Christians. They have varying reasons: they don’t believe in the commercialism, they aren’t sure that December 25 was the date of Jesus’ birth, they disdain the mix of pagan symbolism with Christian symbolism, they prefer a simple day.

It doesn’t matter what their reasons are. It doesn’t even matter that they don’t go all out with the tree, trimmings and outside lights. I have non-Christian friends who go all out in that department.

Today as I was busy unloading my boxes and boxes of Christmas stuff, I began to think about what draws the line between those of us who display all the red-blue-green-gold-silver of the season and those of us who do not. It isn’t faith in Jesus Christ. It is something else: memories of childhood, perhaps? An attempt to capture magic? A wistful nature?

I cannot speak for those who do not load their tree with tinsel, lights, precious ornaments, and dog (or cat- or child-) warning jingle bells along the bottom. I never was one of those people even before I was a believer in Christ.

I was always a believer in Santa.

Every year there is a conversation among my closest Christian friends about how one celebrates and why. I can never adequately answer the questions of the most fundamental of my friends. I never had a problem mixing all the metaphors of Christmas: Santa kneeling at the manger, Jesus with the two broken hands, all my stuffed animals piled up in a make-shift Nativity where Teddy Bear and Pinky Cat represented Mary & Joseph and Lucky Dog was one of the Wise Men and Cecil the Sea Monster was a Poor Shepherd Boy.

Digressing here: Teddy Bear (my black-and-white teddy bear) and Pinky Cat (my sister’s faded stuffed pink cat) got married. They had a pink heart-shaped wedding cake which my sister & I shared with the minister of the ceremonies, my best friend, Lisa. My mom was a witness. I remember that I did not sift the powdered sugar and the pink frosting on the wedding cake ended up with tiny white spots of undissovled powdered sugar. I do not remember what flavor of Betty Crocker cake we baked for the occasion. I do not know what ever became of Pinky Cat, but I am certain Teddy Bear still mourns her. He & Lucky Dog are tucked into a box in my attic, antiques to pass on to another generation some day. (Cecil the sea serpent no doubt went to rest with Pinky Cat.)

The first time I ran smack-dab into Christian fundamentalism, I had been a Christian for 15 years. I had no idea there were Christians out there who associated a tree with paganism. As it happened, Don & I were temporarily living with a couple who refused to have a Christmas tree. I remember telling Don that we had to have our own apartment before the holiday because I was *not* going to have a tree-less Christmas.

I really didn’t care how logical the argument was.

Or illogical.

Christmas is as much about the traditions as it is the faith. It’s about little podunk church programs with little kids dressed in haloes and tinsel wings and a Mary who doesn’t know how to hold a baby doll. It’s about the lights in the yard, however hokey. The polar bears, the meese (plural for moose in my family), the reindeer, the many faces of Saint Nicholas.

I love Rudolph. And not because Gene Autrey recorded the hit before Burl Ives although that could be a very good reason to love Rudolph. Have you ever looked at a young Gene Autrey? Oh yeah. Besides, he had a gorgeous horse, prettier than Trigger.

I love Frosty the Snowman but not as much as I love Rudolph.

I love Santa. I love fat Santa in red, I love Saint Nicholas, I love Father Christmas.

I want to take an aside here to point out that no matter how I tried, my children saw the world in black and white. They never believed in Santa. Flying reindeer were not even myth: they were fantasy. They were as impressed with Santa as most of us are impressed with the Easter Bunny.

(I believe in the Easter Bunny, too.)

I am not into Christmas to get gifts. I really don’t care much about the gifts part except if you are going to get me a gift, make it totally useless and surprise me. I don’t want to know ahead of time what I am going to get. I like the surprise more than the gift.

My husband, on the other hand, wants a specific item and is disappointed if you digress.

I tell you all of this because I will probably blog about Christmas and decorations this month. It’s just what I do in December.

Today I put up the tree. And for the first time in 3 years, I got out every single ornament we own and put it on the tree. It is a very good thing it is a very full Noble Fir: I have a lot of ornaments.

In four weeks, I will be loathe to take this memorial down. That’s what it is for me: a memorial to God. A memorial of my life. Of our life together (Don & I). A celebration of a time in life when magic is afoot.

I don’t mean the magic of Hallowe’en, but a magic that runs deep in the blood of mankind, a magic that wants to believe in goodness, peace on Earth, and something larger than we are. A magic that transports us back to our childhood and the innocent moments where we loved each other unconditionally. Real magic, sans Harry Potter.

Harry Potter, by the way, celebrates Christmas. But that is an entirely other blog post.

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Well, three of them since two are in Colorado…

The boys came over to play with Grandma & Poppa today.

We had a great time. I am so amazed at how much they change every time I see them. Zephan is speaking in complete sentences, Javan is gaining more command of words, and Eli is just… fatter.

Poppa held Eli most of the time. Somehow I think this guy is in love with his Poppa. And lookit those cheeks! Oh my oh my oh my… You just want to cuddle that fat little face!

What is it about this boy and his lips? He has the most adorable little lips. I’ve tried capturing a moment of Eli’s lips, but… they just aren’t the same as Javan’s. Javen is so… expressive.

We had a wonderful night. Grandma showed the boys her pitiful outdoor Christmas light display which to little eyes looks like all the magic of Christmas and then some. Grandpa discovered that some of the cheap yard sale toys had battery compartments so he opened them up and added batteries. Suddenly the lights and horns came on and Arwen threatened us with, “THOSE are toys that STAY at Grandma’s house!”

Well, of course they are! But I don’t understand why she decided to leave fifteen minutes and twenty million truck honks later.

Someone blamed Grandma for taking the honking trucks away.

He should blame the Grinch holding him.

Tell me that tear doesn’t break your heart?

Yeah, he’s already forgotten about the honking trucks with blinking lights. He’s got Mom’s shades on.

Why?

Because Grandma’s Christmas lights are just so bright, they might blind you…

I know. It’s pitiful. But imagine it through the eyes of a one and two year old and it’s the best Christmas light display EVER.

Which is why I love my boys…

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So. I got this bright idea for a Christmas card. I never have bright ideas for Christmas cards until after the first of December which explains why my cards are generally late getting sent. But I digress.

I decided I wanted a photo card of “The Boys”. Problem was: I didn’t have any good photos of “The Boys” together. And no, I don’t mean the grandsons.

My children can send out cards with photos of their children on them.

I did think of sending out a card with the photo of my entire family taken in July but I nixed that because 1) Eli and Micah were not yet born and now they are and 2) Chrystal’s boyfriend is an ex-boyfriend and not really in favor around here and he’s in the photos.

So “The Boys” would have to do. Because I sure as heck am not sending out cards with my mug plastered on them.  And because “The Boys” have taken over our lives. “The Boys” are all testosterone and posturing (even though most of their testosterone supply has been effectively cut-off – pun intended) and “The Boys” actually love each other. In a doggie sort of way.

I didn’t want anything too close to show the damage they’ve done to my furniture.

I wanted something cutesy but when I brought out the Santa hats, Murphy immediately wanted to eat them.

So what follows is… well… what follows.

In which Harvey sulks because he did not get to chew on the Christmas stocking.

“Please don’t get mad at me… I’m not the one chewing the Christmas stocking…” – In which Harvey acts guilty because Murphy is eating the stocking.

“What? you want me to let HARVEY into the picture?”

In which they both sulk because Don temporarily took the stocking away.

“But he growled at me, Dad…”

Now he’s afraid to come down the stairs (and he wants one of those treasures that Murphy is hogging).

In which Harvey discovers there are brightly colored lights falling off of his neck and he decides to taste them…

“I’m not having any problem at all with this posing for Christmas card stuff. Just put ME on the card and forget about that other dog…”

And Christmas Harvey.

I settled for the last two.

Boys!

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No, I don’t have anything deep to say.

I need to explain something about the lamp in my previous post. It’s one of those “touch” lamps: you touch it to turn it on and touch it to turn it off. It is the only lamp on my desk. When I enter my studio, I have to go around the door to turn on the overhead light, so I usually just touch the lamp to give myself some light to work with.

Tonight I thought better of that on the off-chance that Fred was still there.

Fred is the spider.

Fred is still there.

Fred is glad that I thought twice about touching the lamp in the dark to turn it on.

I am glad I thought twice.

I wouldn’t want to have to clean Fred off of my fingers…

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Writing in the evening, unwinding from the first day back at work after the long weekend. It is black and rainy out. I can hear the forced air banging against the shuttered heat vent in the studio and I am finally beginning to warm up.

The house is quiet. Don doesn’t have the television on, I don’t have any music queued, and the dogs have mellowed out.

The calendar on my wall is flipped over to October (again). I really need to get a piece of clear tape and fix the little tear that keeps pulling November off – but, then it will be December on Wednesday so why bother?

There’s a pale spider crawling on the black lamp.

That’s a dangerous position for a spider to be in. I don’t mind arachnids but I do tend to kill them when they are inside my house. Spiders belong outside.

I may let this one live a little while seeing as how I squashed a silverfish in the attic the other day. I can live with a spider.

Don just informed me that Oregon Public Broadcasting is presenting a folk reunion. I’d love to go sit and listen but I don’t want to sit through the endless pledge drive and all the interviews – and there isn’t anything for me to DO while the show airs. I can’t just sit still for the next two hours. I just want to listen to the music: Roger McGuinn, the Chad Mitchell Trio and Barry McGuire are being highlighted. But it doesn’t sound like they will be interviewing all the currently living legends, so I am giving it a pass.

I bet I can find their music online and listen.

That spider hasn’t moved much. Does it think some errant bug is going to fly to it? It needs to go crawl around under the book cases and hunt for silverfish. It is creeping me out perched up there on my lamp.

The silverfish I killed was twice the size of this guy. Girl? How do you know what sex a spider is?

Do I even care to find out?

It is still black and rainy out but at least I no longer have Writer’s Block.

What else is a spider good for in the house?

Oh yeah: to kill silverfish. Hunt well my little eight-legged, eight-eyed transparent assassin.

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*sigh*

My nineteen year old walked into the house yesterday and asked casually, “What happened to your bird bath?”

“Physics.”

Statements like that used to freeze her in her steps. Her eyes would glaze over and she’d get that deer-in-the-headlights look. Maybe she’s figured us out because she didn’t blink. “Oh, you mean ‘when water freezes, it expands.’ Guess that would explain it.”

All was not lost. I made it a photo opportunity.

Lichen Trapped in Ice.

From the Bottom of the Bird Bath Looking Up.

Feathery Patterns In Ice.

And for the record: I will recycle the broken ceramic in my garden somehow.

I guess the birds had no need for that zamboni after all…

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Trivia: did you know there were already pilgrims successfully living in the New World before the Mayflower dispatched her crew at Plymouth Rock?

I have been playing over on Ancestry.com and going through leaves of paper full of family tree information on both sides of my family (Wilcox on the paternal and Melrose on the maternal).

The Wilcox family can trace back to Agawam, Hampden, Massachusetts in 1600 when John Lee, my 10th-great grandfather was born. The same family line goes back to a different settlement in Massachusetts in 1609 when my 9th-great grandmother, Amy Aylesworth, was born. Chances are they never knew each other. The family line doesn’t come together until sometime before 1823.

Czarina Knowlton, direct descendant of John Lee, married Shepherd Parker, the direct descendant of Amy Aylesworth. Shepherd and Czarina became my 4th-great grandparents.

I find it fascinating to trace all this information. Here were two pilgrim children who lived within 50 miles of each other but quite possibly never crossed paths yet down the road their descendants met and married and tied them to me. And these two pilgrim children were both born before the Mayflower landed in Plymouth.

John Lee was 20 that winter. Amy was 11. I wonder if they had a similar thanksgiving with the Indians? Did they know about the trials of the pilgrims at Plymouth? Or were they wrapped up in their own trials?

I don’t know. All I know is that I am thankful this winter to be able to trace my family back to the winter of 1620 in the Americas. I think that’s pretty cool.

Happy Thanksgiving! And I mean that even if you are a recent immigrant or a Native American or someone who can look back to the Mayflower.

Oh heck, Happy Thanksgiving where ever and whoever you are. It is all about being thankful for the harvest and the people who help you through the hard times, isn’t it?

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Brrr – it has been cold!

I walked out of the house this morning to start my car and scrape the frost off of the windows. The sun was just beginning to peek above the horizon and the clouds were tinged pink. The little red-breasted nuthatch was already in the suet feeder stocking up on high energy food to keep it warm through.

After I got the ice scraped and was ready to hit the road, I grabbed my camera and took some quick shots of the red sky.

The bird bath just needs a zamboni and a little yellow bird to be perfect, son’t you think? I was making my way across the lawn back to the car, randomly snapping photos just so I could snap one of this:

The nervous little nuthatch flew off a second later.

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