A couple weeks ago I blogged about a missing child, Kyron Horman. At that time, I stated that I did not want to believe the stepmother was guilty of any wrong-doing in the case even though the odds were that she was. It seems that family is always the first suspect and somehow I just wanted it to be something else.
We are nearing the end of the fourth week since Kyron went missing. Everything points to the step mother. The only thing missing is Kyron and a confession or a clue.
On Monday, Kyron’s father filed for divorce. That’s not surprising: tragedies have a way of driving a wedge between people instead of bringing them closer. But the damning motion was that he also filed for a protective restraining order against Terri Horman and he took their 18-month old daughter with him when he moved out. Further, a statement was issued by the step-father, the bio-mom and the bio-dad. They admitted that the step mother did not even know they were making a statement.
When the family jumps ship it doesn’t look good.
In the past few days, I have spoken to or communicated with women I know who never had children of their own. Women who wanted children, but could not have them. And they said the same thing: If you don’t want the child to love, give him (or her) to someone who does.
I was struck by how hard this is for women who wanted to be mothers but who were not given that gift. Every time a pseudo-parent harms a child a childless mother (or father) feels that stabbing pain of why not me? I would have been a GREAT parent!
Until they wrap up the Kyron Horman case and charges are brought against someone, pointing fingers at someone is pure speculation.
But it is speculation that is brought up in the break rooms and cubicles of offices all around the Portland metro area. People are discussing it in grocery aisles. We are tuning in to it with the morbid fascination of moths drawn to flames. In the end, the truth of what happened to Kyron Horman will probably burn us deeply in our hearts. I hope we do learn the truth, but I fear it will be a painful truth.
I don’t know if there is any logical way to bring this post to a close. It would help if the case came to a close (and I hope/pray it will in the next few days). Then the pain can come to a head and the healing can begin.
Jaci Dawn 
I can’t even tell you how upset I was when he first went missing. I truly believed he was lost and lonely out in the cold. By the second day I knew he wasn’t just lonely and cold and it didn’t take a rockey scientist to figure out the step mom was the likely culprit. It just brings me to tears when I think about it. She had a choice…there were people that loved him and she could have removed herself and left him to those who love him. There won’t be a happy ending but I do want to know the ending.
I know, Sheri. I keep weeping over it. I read tonight she has retained an attorney – but when Iread the article I realized the attorney is known for defending some real scumbags (like the Death Doctor on trial in Australia). He’s lost, too. She must have some money to retain this guy.
Just UGH.
Yes, ugh sums it up pretty good. So unfair and so not right. He deserved better. I also feel like someone in the inner circle must have known she didn’t care for him like she should so then I think they should have protected him. Who knows though….she might have snapped. He shouldn”t have paid for it though. This is one of those that is so sad to me that I need it to somehow make sense so I can be reassured that no other child will also fall into this particular cicumstance….I guess that is not realistic though. Thanks for writing about him. I think of him all the time and I am glad to know I am not the only one.
I don’t think there was any ‘snapping’ involved. I feel this was pre-meditated, perhaps weeks in the making. Perhaps the moment the notice for the Science Fair came home with Kyron.
I don’t like the body language of the stepmother at ALL. I felt so horrible for this family when the news first came out, and so bad for the stepmom…until I saw her at the press conference, trying to snuggle up to the biomom. It just appeared so contrived and phony. It was her stolen glance up at biomom’s face that convinced me this is more than a missing kid.
That glance spoke volumes to me…”is she buying my story? Do I look empathetic? Am I fooling anyone?”
I think stepmom did it, I think it was planned. There is too much coming out now about ongoing marital problems, issues with her son being removed from her home in favor of Kyron (regarding the teenager and Kyron not ‘getting along’…which could full well mean the older child bullied the younger).
Got a feeling she knew her gravy train ride was coming to a screeching halt. Knew her husband was going to leave her. Wanted him to ‘pay’ for it.
I find it very interesting who she picked to be her lawyer.
I find it interesting that the rest of the family is begging her to “cooperate” with the police. In what way does the family perceive that she is *not* cooperating with the investigation? They certainly feel they are cooperating, so there must be some other issue out there.
I wonder if she had her teenage son removed from the house so that when she did “take care of” Kyron, the finger would not be pointed in his direction (deflecting blame from her own child). Because, yes, Sophie- I am beginning to believe this was planned.
Sheri – While there may have been signs, were they strong enough indicators to those around? Would you really believe someone you loved and lived with would be capable of something so diabolical? Usually we try to believe in the best of someone and ignore little warning signs. I really don’t know, just am thinking out loud.
Sophie, I don’t disagree with a word you said but it does leave me wondering why those who loved him didn’t protect him. They had to have an inkling that all was not well in paradise. I think the poor little guy got a raw deal all the way around.
All is not well in paradise in most of our lives. We all have stress in marriage and family relations. We all have at some time or another, problems getting along with even those we love most.
But most of us weather through it, problems come and go, there are good woven into the bad times…which give us the strength to keep on going.
We’ve all had a child that at some point, we didn’t get along with for some reason or another. We’ve all had a child who at some point, irritated the heck out of us.
We get past it.
So I can see where those others who loved Kyron didn’t foresee that his stepmother might be seriously thinking of killing the child.
The majority of us DON’T think that way, even for a second. Most of us, make lemonade out of the proverbial lemon.
Unfortunately, the few people willing to make that lemonade with arsenic are the ones we’d never suspect of doing such.
I am thankful we can vent and toss out our feelings about this case. Today was full of more conflicting news stories. I know the family is holding out hope that Kyron is alive, but… dang. Four weeks. 😦
Thank you Sophie & Sheri.