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Around the Yard

The first weekend of Summer is almost officially over. We had one nice day. Today, it rained. That’s pretty normal for this corner of the world, but it makes my toes cold and wet. I categorically refuse to wear socks in the summer.

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I am trying out this nifty new product. I’m not sure if it has a name or not, but if it does, it’s an Ant Moat. It hangs between the hook and the hummingbird feeder and you fill it with water. In theory, it stops the ants because they can’t swim. Sounds logical and if it works (this feeder is in an area with heavy ant traffic), then I will purchase more of them. I should have washed the label off first, so next time…

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This was a spur-of-the-moment purchase. A funky glass bird feeder that is probably prettier than functional, but I filled it and put it on a shepherd’s hook in the backyard. now to see how long iot takes the little birds to find it (it’s much too small to host the big birds – they’ll have to share with the squirrels out front).

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Speaking of bird feeding: for three years in a row, I have had zero fortune with growing sunflowers. I’ve never had such a black thumb with such an easy plant to grow, but there you are. This year, my husband decided to not mow down the volunteer sunflowers that sprang up underneath the front yard feeder.

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He made that decision after I sprang for six sunflower starts at Portland Nursery, which are also doing quite well. I took this photo before I added the old croquet balls to the yard decor. There are only four croquet balls left from the cheap variety store set we purchased when our kids are little. The brandboys used to roll them down the handicap ramp out back, but now that they live far away, I’m turning the set into yard decor.

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I like random yard art. The door knob is one of three that came inside a chest of drawers I purchased at Goodwill. They’re just funky plastic door knobs still attached to part of the door. Inexplicably, someone saved them and I repurposed them to the garden.

The gazing balls are just cheap plastic ones. I positioned them on the roots of a bush that died in my garden. When I dug it out, I decided I liked the shape of the root ball and rather than toss it away, I am using it for yard art.

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An old lawn chair becomes support for the Russian Sage. By the time the sage blooms, it will be tall and prone to falling over. The chair fits over it perfectly.

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We’ll have grapes this year if the birds don’t beat us to them!

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Speaking of random yard art, Daphne has taken up residence on my cheap garden bench.

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So did the cast iron bird. You can see my bench had an accident. Eventually, I will recycle the bench into yard art as it is cheaper and easier to just purchase a new bench for $40 than it is to find replacement slats. I just have to decide what I want to do with the old bench first.

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I bought this at the Farmer’s Market. The artist called it “Bird on a Stick”. She had dozens of the birds & even sold sticks, but I told her I had plenty of sticks in my yard to use.

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I did some planting on Saturday: the peppers are staked with old hot-wire stakes. The stakes consit of rebar with a ceramic insulator at the top. I have about 8 of them that I picked up out of an old barn on some property we lived on long ago. They don’t make hot wire stakes like these anymore and I’ve used them for a variety of purposes over the years (Christmas lights, plant stakes, gate stops, temporary fence for horses that I no longer own).

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I have no idea why I took a photo of our one and only tree. It’s a dying Lodgepole pine. Two bird feeders and two suet cakes dangle from it. We call it a “Habitat Tree” because it attracts so many birds to our yard. As such, it can’t be cut down. Sadly, it’s completely dead on the north side and slowly dying up the other side. My dad suggested it has a fungus. We know it has tiny black borer beetles. It’s not tall enough to be a threat to our home (the towering Douglas Firs across the street are a bigger threat), so we’ll just let it stay there as long as we can use it for the birds.

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This is Earl’s House. Earl is our resident (and brazen) star-nosed mole patriarch. We don’t know how many Earls live in the hole or what Earl’s wife’s name is. Earlene? Chrystal named Earl when I was trying to teach her dog to mole hunt. There will be more blogs about Earl as I am getting ready to wage war with him (humanely, if possible).

War was actually declared by Earl the night before Father’s Day. He came out of his hole while Harvey was standing there, did the little gopher dance from “Caddyshack”, and then retreated into darkness when I tried to point him out to Harvey.

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Speaking of Harvey. It’s an on-going battle to keep him in the yard.His last escape attempt was at this gate. He figured out that if he kept jumping on it, it would eventually unhinge and open. Fortunately, I caught him in the act. I stapled a tomato cage (opened and flattened) across the weak point so he’ll stop pushing on it. So far, so good. Another temporary foil until he finds a new weak spot in the yard.

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Sometimes I just have to resort to funky with the big dogs. This is my funky “do not pee on this bush” fence. They’ll probably pee on the wires, but they’re still too far away to kill the bush.

Why do we have dogs…?

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Which segues into other critters, like snails, slugs and fairies. Here I have the supplies to build a fairy house. A real one, not the sort I make in my studio. The kind that attract real fairies. However, I haven’t done much with it because of the snails and slugs. If I build a hollow, the gastropods will invade it and make it their home. I don’t want to put slug-and-snail bail down inside a fairy house because it’s probably toxic to fairies (not to mention the matter of aesthetics and dead slugs/snails.

I have an idea, but I need to commit it to paper and then visit a hardware store and make a tiny model first. I think a faerie house on stilts with a place underneath to kill slugs and snails? I could post slug bait warning signs for the fairies and the birds wouldn’t be getting into it, either.

Or the dogs.

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More on critters: there has been a dearth of these in my yard this summer. We started out strong with the honeybees and bumblebees, but two things have happened that have affected out population. They moved a huge hive that was building outside of a church steeple in early June. My husband said they were relocating them back inside the steeple. All I know is this: the honeybee population in our yard took a dive. It’s starting to come back (I saw six honeybees yesterday).

The other blow was to bumblebees. I still have them in my yard, but it seems like there are far fewer and I’m concerned that what happened in Wilsonville (50,000 bumblebees dead) has happened closer to home. I worry, too, that individuals purchase the insecticide Safari and apply it in their own yards, indiscriminately and because most people think bees, wasps, and hornets are the same thing.

I joined the Xerces Society.

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While I was chasing down the honeybees for a photo, this guy kept buzzing me. It’s a young bald-faced hornet. They can be pretty aggressive, but if you don’t get excited and swat at them or you don’t get too close to their hive, you’re usually pretty safe from them. This one definitely let me know how close I could step to the lavender while taking pictures of him. Of course, maybe he was just posing for the lens.

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And then there’s the dogs. In a classic move, Harvey, the submissive, hides his treat from Murphy, the domineering. Murphy won’t force the issue (these dogs have never gotten into a fight), but he’ll hover in case Harvey drops the treat.

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“Please drop it, Bro!”

“Nope, nope, nope. Yumm.”

And last, a little interlude from Earl the Mole’s cousin:

 

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It has been a long time since I have posted photos of my grandkids onto my blog. I apologize, because I really have the cutest grandchildren on the face of the earth. I have some pretty good-looking children, too.

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Saturday’s Child.

You know the nursery rhyme?

Monday’s Child is fair of face

Tuesday’s child is full of grace

Wednesday’s child is full of woe

Thursday’s child has far to go

Friday’s child is loving and giving

Saturday’s child works hard for a living

And the child that’s born on the Sabbath Day

Is bonny and blithe, happy and gay

My little Verity is a Saturday’s child.

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She is surrounded by a pair of Tuesday’s children and a Thursday’s child. Brothers like these will make a formidable alliance when she’s old enough for boys to notice her!

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My Monday’s child had an accident with a razor. But she certainly fills the bill: Monday’s child is fair of face.

I just threw this one in. It has nothing to do with grandkids. I just happen to think it’s a darn good photo of my youngest – she’s my Audrey Hepburn child. And she has provided me with a grandpuppy that I have been teaching to hunt moles.

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A mighty tired Fen, my grand-doggie.

(After all, all grandkids who come to visit me should get fair billing. I have yet to meet his siblings, the grand-kitties.)

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Then there’s these boys. Oh my gosh – what sweet, loving, boisterous little guys! Makes my heart pound!

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And, of course, Miss Korinne with her daddy. Which segues into the next nursery rhyme…

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Before I post the nursery rhyme, I want to tell you a little story. When I was a little girl, I once asked my mother what she had wanted in a little girl before I was born. I mean, how did she imagine I would look before she actually had me? She told me that she imagined a little girl with natural curly hair. Black hair, like my father’s steely black hair.

Of course, I have flat brown hair. Not a one of us kids inherited my father’s black hair and not a one of us had naturally curly hair.

And then there’s Korinne.

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Every time I look at this photo of my darling granddaughter, I think of this nursery rhyme (sorry, Kaci & Levi  – but it pops out at me!). My mother used to say it all the time:

There was a little girl

who had a little curl

right in the middle of her forehead.

When she was good,

she was very, very good –

but when she was bad,

she was horrid!

**photo credits: 1 & 2 by Arwen Weisser

2 & 3 by Chrystal Wilcox

5 by Levi Presley

4 & 6 by Kaci Presley

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Hospital Surfing

Guess what I did today? I went hospital surfing. I’m not certain it will catch on as a sport but I am certain some family members will be put out because they didn’t know I went hospital surfing. I do hope they will read the whole blog and will understand that 1)there really wasn’t anything to report and 2) I was dealing with my own issues on top of lack of sleep, so something as simple as making a phone call kind of went out the window. Fatigue will do that to you.

My alternate title for this blog is “Things to do on Your Day Off at the Hospital.”

Or “Why is there a blue latex glove on the ground outside my house?”

There really was a blue latex glove on the ground outside the house this morning.

I really did have the day off, too. I had two appointments: a 10:00 with the dentist to set a crown and a 2:30 with a CT Scan. I figured that between them, it wasn’t worth driving to work in between. As it was, I never made it to the dentist appointment. That was rescheduled for Friday at 3:00.

Last night, Don & I met in the kitchen to talk. We do that frequently when the weather is too bad to go sit outside in lawn chairs (which is most of the time here). He leans against the kitchen sink and I stand by the stove and we recount our day, our concerns for our kids, what we have planned for our immediate future and long term future, and everything under the sun. Don poured a second glass of wine for both of us and I contemplated how soon I could get into bed even though I didn’t have to get up early in the morning.

He turned a funny ashen color and looked around nervously. “I feel dizzy.”

“Do you want me to help you walk to your chair?”

He nodded and mumbled, turning paler. I stepped forward to put my shoulder under his armpit but he just collapsed in front of me. Kind of slid down the front of the cupboards, landing gently in a sitting position with legs akimbo and eyes wide open and blank. He wasn’t there.

I reached for the phone and dialed 9-1-1. I detailed quickly what had just happened, where I lived and that my husband had a history of A-Fib. Sometime during the first few moments of the call, Don roused himself a little and looked up at me.

“Why did you call 9-1-1?”

<pause for you to absorb that line>

I finished my call with the operator by explaining that I had to secure our two big dogs before the paramedics arrived. Then I hauled the pair of them outside and into their outdoor kennels. Hurried back in, realized I was bra-less and corrected that (a girl has to do what a girl has to do to save the minds of unsuspecting paramedics).

Oh, sure, laugh. But I want to know: how many of you who wear bras during the day time, ditch that torture device as soon as you walk in that front door after work?

Things happened very quickly from that point on: four burly firemen came into my kitchen and stuck pieces of tape onto Don’s body (and even shaved some of his chest although I warned them that I like men with hairy chests – none of that body-builder shaved chest look for this woman!) and asked me questions about his health. Don was somewhat coherent at this point, more bewildered than anything. I’m sure he was thinking, “Did Jaci wash the dishes in the sink? Don’t let them go into the bathroom. It’s a mess…”

Then the ambulance arrived and the second shift came in. These guys came with Don’s own special guerney.

They also convinced me that they should take my husband to a hospital more capable of dealing with heart issues than the one down the street. So off to Meridian Park they headed. I made a last minute sweep through the house, called each one of the kids and gave them a five second “head’s up”, and then locked the door. I went a different way than the ambulance and beat them to the hospital.

From that point on, it got incredibly b-o-r-i-n-g. Don’s vitals were normal. They drew blood. We were left in an ER room behind a big curtain that zips together. Don had a roommate on the other side who said random things (loudly) like, “DON’T TALK LIKE THAT, THERE ARE SMALL CHILDREN HERE.” Once in awhile, between snores, snorks, and inarticulate grunts, said person would hear a nurse sneeze. “GEZUNDHEIT.”

Around 2AM, they determined Don would spend the night and they started the process of securing a room for him. I left. All the bars were closed as I drove through Oregon City – I can’t remember the last time I was out later than the bars were open. I let the kids know I was home and it looked OK.

At 4, I fell asleep. At 7, Murphy woke up and went looking (again) for Don. At 8, Murphy woke up and started to go looking for Don but I yelled at him and he lay back down. I called the dentist and canceled my appointment. At 9, the garbage men picked up the trash and Murphy went ballistic. At 9:30, I punished him by shoving him back into his outdoor kennel and leaving him. Take that, Murph!

Darn dog, anyway.

I reached the hospital by 10. And NOTHING WAS CHANGED – except, of course, that Don was in a room. Finally. He said he didn’t get a room until 8AM. It was that busy at the hospital although we were in the ICU wing and it seemed rather quiet there.

It was a long day of just sitting and waiting. I read three YA books that a friend mailed me a week ago. The Rugendo Rhinos Series. I hope the link works. It’s an aside, but I have a friend who grew up in the same mission as where the books are set and it’s kind of like a peek into that friend’s childhood.

I had to leave before the doctor got up to see Don because I have my own issues. Yes, I italicized that.

The whole reason for taking today off was so I could fit the CT Scan in. At another hospital, although if I had known I was going to be hanging out all day at Meridian Park, I certainly could have scheduled it for there. As it was, I had to hospital surf. I drove back to Willamette Falls Hospital so I could have an IV put into my arm (also) and iodine solution pumped into my veins.

You see, that stupid kidney thing is back. At least, we think it is in my kidneys. We don’t really know now that kidney stones have been effectively removed (from my kidneys and from the bigger picture). We’re back to the first imaging that was done in early 2011: the CT Scan with an iodine solution and diagnostic x-rays.

Meanwhile… well, if I can talk about remembering to put my bra on before paramedics show up, I guess I can throw this bit of TMI out, too: I pee red. Blood clots. Yeah. It’s all very mysterious and pain-less.

So if I didn’t call anyone, it’s because I was sort of preoccupied with my own stuff today. Hospital surfing. It’s a sport for the strong of spirit and weak of stomach (I avert my eyes when an IV is mentioned).

Anyway – the upshot of Don’s imprisonment is that the blood pressure meds they put him on during the original episode seem to be making his heart beat TOO slow. He spent the night restless because every time he drifted off to sleep, his heart rate dropped to 30 and he set off alarms. Otherwise, he’s the picture of health.

They took him off of that med and told him to follow up with his GP next week. I got to bring him home.

My issues? Well, we’ll find out Monday if they could find anything.

One last thing: Don *is* still talking to me even though he thinks the whole night-in-the-hospital was a waste of time (his) and resources (ours and the insurance company’s). I told him the moral of the story is simple: “Don’t faint in front of your wife. Ever. Not ever again.”

It’s not allowed.

Oh – and if you’re a family member that didn’t get called and you’re miffed, look at it this way: I am secretly practicing to see if I can beat your record for hospital surfing. Because we’re all becoming pretty good at this as we age, don’t you think??

 

 

 

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I really need a good laugh right now. I bet you do, too. So I need to dredge something out of my history to make us all happy.

This one is called : “High Water”

The year was 1991. My oldest was in second grade and attending a terrible public school in southeast Portland. That’s a minor detail except that it helped push me into homeschooling when my hand was called a few years later: send my kids to a school like this one or…? I chose homeschooling.

We had one car: a 1984 Ford Escort four-door hatchback. We purchased it with 3 miles on the odometer, fresh off the docks. Paid for it up the wazoo after an uninsured driver rear-ended me and “totaled” the car (which lost half of it’s value the moment we drove it off the lot). Insurance gave us a check and let us keep the car; we had to pay for the remainder of the loan. The car died on Highway 213 with a police escort (pun intended), but that’s another story.

High Water was many years before that.

I worked as a parttime secretary/bookstore volunteer/receptionist for a small (but growing rapidly) church. It would one day be a “mega church” but in those days, I still managed the office mostly by myself. The church provided Day Care for me, but as often as not, my young son wandered down into the sanctuary where remodeling was an on-going thing and “helped” the men who were rebuilding the dais or putting Spackle on the walls or…  Levi was a favorite among the construction workers.

We lived in a dinky apartment off of 82nd Avenue, near the future junction of Johnson Creek Blvd and I-205. It was an in-between place for us and where we kept our dog hidden in the garage because we were not supposed to have a dog. The school was located nearby and Arwen’s 2nd grade teacher was a uncommunicative old woman that told me I was too nosy. Quite the opposite of Arwen’s Kindergarten teacher who told me, “You are the parent teachers will love or hate. You are involved in your child’s education, you know what is going on, and you ask questions. I love you. Others will hate you.”

Second Grade Teacher hated me.

It had been raining. Not real unusual for this part of the world.

Levi and I were early on our way to pick Arwen up from school. Early is not unusual for me. We needed to kill some time, so we drove around the neighborhood near her school. We came to a street that went down a steep hill and then climbed right back out. A sign warned: “High Water”. There was nothing at the bottom to give you a visual as to high the high water could be: a foot? or less? I knew a car could go through a foot of water, just drive careful (this was an Escort, OK?).

Um. Three feet of water. The engine died. The water began to seep in the doors. I attempted to restart the engine: nothing.

My son cried out (gleefully, the little devil), “Mommy, dey’s papers floating back here!”

I breathed in. Out. Prayed the sparkplugs were still dry. In with the clutch, turn the key. Engine powered up.

I eased off the clutch and we motored forward, out of the high water. I waved congenially at the people standing at the top of the hill as my car passed them, water dripping out the doors. It smelled like dead earthworms.

We picked Arwen up and drove home.

Yeah, I still can’t remember the conversation as I explained that scenario to my husband. We never did get rid of the dead earthworm smell in the car. But we knew one thing: Jaci can drive a stick shift through 3 feet of water…

(I really should write a book about that Escort – that was only one adventure it took…)

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I do not usually plug a book on my blog. Yes, I have put out a plug for Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person, and that was because I found myself in Elaine’s book. She set me free, more or less.

I met Amy on Facebook through mutual friends. I purchased and read her latest book out of curiosity and because the reviews were so great. What I did not know when I purchased it and while I read it, was that Amy was going through a valley: Christian bookstores are not picking up and marketing her newest book. They have picked up all of her earlier books (and with great enthusiasm), but they are largely ignoring Letters From the Closet.

I loved Amy’s book. It’s about a student and her mentor and their ten years of correspondence. She has a secret; he has a secret. There is John himself: a character who is tormented with depression (boy, I relate to that). John taunts, encourages, disparages – it’s a one-sided conversation because we do not have Amy’s letters to him. We have only Amy’s recollections and her reaction to his letters when she uncovers them from her closet. Letters from the Closet. her closet; his closet; their secrets unveiled.

I do not want to provide a spoiler – but what Christian could refuse a book about redemption and the journey to understanding through the eyes of a Christian? Ultimately, that is what the book leads us to as Amy relives the ten years of correspondence (sometimes with brutal honesty about her own flaws) and she comes to terms with the letters she hid in her closet for so many years. 

I no longer have the influence I used to have on a mega church book store. If I could still wield that influence, I would. I haven’t set foot inside my mega church in over a year, maybe two. It’s a long story. Considering that I am a disillusioned church goer, my plug for Amy’s book should carry some weight with it: I don’t read much in the way of Christian literature. I have a tendency to swing into Fantasy, Young Adult, and all things Barbara Kingsolver (like The Poisonwood Bible). I am currently working my way through Steppenwolf by Herman Hesse and am re-reading the complete Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum (I read all the books twice or more when I was in junior high).

Amy is a Christian writer who isn’t interested in converting me or selling me the latest fad prayer that will change my life. Letters From the Closet is much more than the title of a book where one of the lead characters just happens to be gay. It’s about love, forgiveness, redemption.

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A Visitation at Night

I had two dreams last night. One was an intense story between good and evil, with a heroine who tempted evil until it got so close she could smell the brimstone. I awakened from that dream, and felt the girl’s mind as she gained the wisdom that she did not wish to flirt any longer with that danger. And just as quickly, the danger dissipated and faded, unwilling to stay in my mind if I would not engage it. A warning from my subconscious, perhaps, or my subconscious rising to take back ground I’d ceded to evil.

I mention that only because in real life, I am struggling with some angry emotions. There’s an ugly side to my heart that I don’t want to look at, but in waking I am reminded just how ugly it can be. It is the dross rising to the surface of the refiner’s fire, needing to be scraped off so I can be a more pure – and joyful – person. I always find the process painful.

But that dream, because it did not linger, was not the visitation. When I drifted back to sleep, I hoped only that I would not reenter that world.

I did not expect to see my mother.

I do not dream of my mother very often. She was my best friend in my early adult years, the person I called with all the details of my life. Once a week we spoke on the telephone.  After I had children, we did not speak so often, but even my husband knew “that ring” when my mother called – and my mother knew when it was me calling her. The dreams I had of her after her death were dreams of someone I never knew in real life: she was angry, angry about everything and angry at me. I tried not to dream of her, because I didn’t understand the anger that was suddenly pitched in my direction.

It was not until my father died two years ago (and today is the anniversary of his birthday: he would have been 85 today) that the dreams where my mother appeared changed. She has not been angry since my father died.

But those are the dreams of the past. Last night’s dream (or this morning’s, as REM sleep often catches me just before the alarm sounds) took place in a big rambling house. I’d never been in this house before (in a dream or otherwise – often my dreams return to the same settings). It was my parent’s new house and I was visiting, home from college, I think. I was an adult, and adult-sized. I walked from the darkened living room area into the light kitchen.

It was an Alice-in-Wonderland over-sized kitchen. Even though I was an adult, I was dwarfed by the appliances, the counter-tops, my mother on a step-stool – even the step-stool seemed over-large. I was looking up at my mom from the eyes of a five-year old girl where she seemed larger-than-life.

In reality, my mom was smaller than me as an adult. She was 5’2″ in her prime, but slowly shrank. At one point, she had a 20″ waist and she still wore a girdle. This was the age she was in my dream: early thirties, her hair tinted a soft auburn, wearing capri pants. She was reaching up to the cabinets to put dishes away.

My mother was never tall enough for tall cupboards and so we never had them in the houses we lived in but what she had a step stool (I am the same way and I stand 5’4″). But these cupboards were much too tall for a reasonable kitchen, and yet she was there. putting things away in them.

I asked her if I could help do something. This was normal between us. I looked around and said I’d clean out the sink. But when I reached into the kitchen sink, I found the faucet had been broken off, and it was not dirty dishes in there, but my work clothes. My sister had taken them from me when I’d changed and promised she would “take care of them.” Now they were in a sink, splatter with tomato sauce. White pants and tomato sauce.

I was not angry. My sister stood in the kitchen now, a wee bit of a girl no more than ten years old. My sister is always ten in my dreams and my visions of her. But in real life, when she was ten, she was rapidly approaching my height. In real life, she surpassed me in height: she was 5’7″ or 5’9″ when she stopped growing, a rail-thin woman with a hunched back and a misguided sense of fashion. But in the dream, her age ten self was as short – a reverse of the Alice kitchen – as my mother was large.

My mother = larger than life, my sister = a mite of a thing.

I explained to my sister that white pants would stain with tomato sauce and they needed to be placed in cold water immediately to forestall the stains. My mother looked down and said, “Deni, show your sister where the washing machine is so she can wash her clothes.”

Because it was a home I was unfamiliar with, my sister had to show me where things were. As we walked through the kitchen to the other door (this kitchen was a hallway, much like one we had in our first home in Ely), my sister told me that “Mom and Dad have a new washer and dryer.”

I knew this (I’d been writing my folks) but it was nice to hear it from my sister. She continued that in order to work the washer right, “We have to fill the toilet with extra water.”

The toilet seemed to be in a manufactured home pre-1970’s, except it had a shut-off valve. Deni turned the valve and filled the tank and bowl with clean (for a toilet) water – I mean to the brim, filled – before turning the valve back. “Now we can use the washer.”

I thought it was quite odd.

The washer and dryer were huge and in-ground. Red enamel. The washer was made up of three different tanks – the one you put clothes in and the one you took clothes out of and one in between, right to left. And they, like the dream kitchen, vacillated between underground and too large as Deni showed me how to work them.

The room was at first like a shed: dirt floor, cob-webby shelves above the appliances. Then it slowly changed into the opening of a very large horse barn, like the kind you find at a county fair with rows upon rows of box stalls and wide aisles. I was not concerned about the room, only knew that it was there and changing. And that my mother walked past us, behind us, dressed in her jodhpurs and headed to the stalls to work out her horse.

My mother hated horses. Horses were an obsession I shared with my sister, and even my brother. But my mother categorically hated horses. Horses and domestic birds, like parrots. Creatures I love. She loved dogs.

Once my clothes were in the washer, I needed laundry soap, but there was none. I was looking for Tide™ (my parents never used any other brand of detergent because my father was allergic to everything else. So they said). Deni pointed out that there was a box of powder detergent that belonged to our “foster-sister” and I could use it. I hated to, because I knew Cyndi needed every dime she could save and the detergent was for washing diapers (apparently Cyndi put cloth diapers on her little girl, Tomi).

I don’t know why Cyndi and Tomi came into the dream at all. Deni was 17 when Tomi was born, not 10. And I doubt seriously that Cyndi did the Whole Earth Mama thing. That was me. I used cloth. I breast-fed on demand. I let my children wean on their own timing (one at 13 months and the other at a ghastly 8 months. That second child hauled a bottle !! around until he was four).

I climbed up on a step stool and retrieved the soap, dumped a measure of it in the washer (now oversize) and attempted to replace it. In doing so, I knocked over a cat food dish with kibble in it and some of the kibble spilled down into the washer before the top could be shut. Oh well, I said as I righted everything.

Deni seemed amused.

And then the dream was over.

 

Cyndi and Tomi are living. They never appeared in the dream, they were only mentioned. My dad was only mentioned. My sister and I rarely got along as well as we did in the dream. I’d have read her a riot act for spilling tomato sauce on my good white pants (if I had owned any). She idolized me; I tortured her. We loved each other fiercely.

My brother was away. We knew he existed but he was not part of the dream any more than my father was.

It was just us: Deni, Mom, Me. A vivid dream, the kind that doesn’t fade, even 12 hours later.

There are lessons in there, I just have to puzzle them out.

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Tip Number One: If you are going to adopt a rescue dog, be prepared for issues. Adopted dogs have issues. I used to think Murphy was the worst dog in the world, but we have conquered most of his issues (that whole dominant-aggressive thing he had going on when he was a puppy. He still doesn’t quite recognize me as The Alpha when Don is around, but one-on-one when it is just Murphy and me, he acquiesces.

But Harvey? If there is a fence that blocks his way, he is bound and determined to get past it. If it is wooden, he will chew it to shreds. If it is decorative, he will squeeze his fat body through the gaps. Even when I double the decorative fence to keep him away from the wooden fence – nay, even when I triple and quadruple it – Harvey finagles, works, schemes, pulls…

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And when I catch him, he’s a White Ghost . Who me? Tail wagging, innocent looking, fence-eating son-of-a-gun!

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Tip #2 – Before filling a garbage can and piling all those weeds beside it (because they don’t fit), S-T-R-E-T-C-H. I neglected to do that last week and I woke up on Sunday with a stiff and sore back. I felt like I was ninety years old. I did not sweep my house or vacuum or mop. I curled up in a chair with an ice/heat pad and groaned about aging all day.

I hope I followed my own advice today. I did back exercises while I was weeding and I did a number of stretches before I even started and during.

Tip #3 – Drink plenty of WATER. I mean, drink so much water that you have to run for the house several times, waving frantically at anyone who gets in your way and screaming, “Gotta pee! Gotta Pee!” Having to pee a lot is so much better than dehydrating or getting sunstroke.

I guess this rule could also be worded: Pee frequently, and if you aren’t peeing – drink more water.

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#4 – Take “before” photos.

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#5 – Take “after” photos. Preferably from the same angles, but in this case, I didn’t quite capture the same angles. But the change is dramatic.

#6 – Blog about the plants you plant just so you can remember what they are long after the little white card is gone.

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“Honeydew Melon Sage” – attracts hummingbirds.

Lately, I have had several face-to-face encounters with my Anna’s Hummingbird female. She is getting to be extremely friendly and curious. She hovered six inches from my face yesterday as she decided if I was friend or foe.

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Salvia – guarnitica black & blue – Black and Blue Sage. Another hummingbird favorite.

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Leptinella squalida – Platt’s Black, Brass Buttons.

It’s a rock garden ground cover.

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#7 – Log when you move plants for better exposure. It’s OK to make mistakes. I tried growing rosemary in a planter and it froze. This time, I am placing it in direct sun in a corner of the yard.

This particular corner has been host to four plantings now. There was a lilac here when we moved in. I moved the lilac to the front yard where it blossomed (until the neighbor’s fir tree outgrew it and covered it in limbs – but we will take care of that dilemma this summer when we prune up the neighbor’s fir tree (we have permission). Then I planted a noxious butterfly plant which was a housewarming gift from a friend who meant well. The thing took over and grew huge. But I never liked it because of the invasive nature of butterfly bushes. Eventually, I had to take it out because it was too large and I felt like I was violating some unwritten naturalist’s code of honor by keeping a highly invasive non-native plant in my yard, especially one that is illegal to purchase in the State of Oregon. So, like the friendship, the butterfly bush has been expunged. (Except I did not expunge the friendship. She did. I may never know why. Sometimes, you just don’t want to go back and ask.)

Then it was home to a native Oregon plant, the black-cap raspberry. Rubus occidentalis.

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Don dug it up in the Cascades several years ago and I had high hopes for it. Hands-down, it is my favorite raspberry. We had one growing in our side yard in Ely, Nevada where I grew up. Don and I had one that took over our yard in our little mobile home park yard before we moved into town. It was a monster and I had black-caps all summer long that I ate off the vine and froze.

But this one? It blossomed one year and then died back to almost nothing. It’s never really taken off. So when I moved the new rosemary bush into it’s corner, thinking it was completely done – of course, I found it growing. Just a start, mind you, and not much more than last year. I moved it to a different location and we will see if it survives. If it doesn’t – Don will dig me up a new one.

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#8. Don’t be selfish. Let others share the work – and glory. This is Don’s veggie garden, over taken by grass and blackberries last summer when he let it go fallow. He powered up the weed whacker and mowed down the meter-tall grass. He dug up the blackberries. He cursed the neighbor who allows their ivy to grow over the fence.

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That’s his weed pile. He can’t put it in the yard debris recycle bin because he mowed the lawn and the grass clippings are in there. It can’t be composted because my compost bin doesn’t get hot enough to kill the grass seeds.

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This is what I dug up. It can’t be composted, either – because the compost bin doesn’t get hot enough to kill the weed seeds. I filled this can and stacked the weeds on either side of it, for a future date when I can load it into the yard debris can.

See the “mushrooms” in the back there?

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These guys. I abhor chemicals and we try to avoid the use of chemicals. I use a mix of vinegar and Dawn dish detergent in a spray bottle to kill most weeds I can’t dig up. But slugs and snails??

Hint #9 – Resort to killer stuff when it comes to slugs and escargot snails in the garden. I put the slug bait under the mushrooms, safely out of sight for birds and cats and dogs. It’s in a dark place where the slugs – and snails – like to go. The hazelnut mulch helps to a certain degree, but when you have so much foliage and places for the gastropods to hide…

Beer is a lost cause and very messy. If you don’t drink, you have to suffer the looks of other non-drinkers when you purchase cheap beer to pour into bowls. If you do drink, you have to suffer the looks of other beer aficionados as you purchase their favorite brand to drown slugs in. And then – there’s the clean up. You have to dispose of those drowned, twisted bodies.

The best bet is to throw them as far as you can and hope the impact kills them – but if that means throwing them into a neighbor’s yard… well, you should deal with them in your own yard and not pass them on.

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No tip on this one. I just wanted to share what I did with my yard sale fine, a little “wishing well”. I put some of my hens-and-chicks into it.

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The tortoise was something I picked up from my mom. I planted some sedums in it today. It’s lasted decades of Nevada summers, we’ll see how it does in the PNW.

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This is MY corner. I want to drag my bench over here so I can hide out on quiet Sunday mornings. It is really shaping up. The worst part of this corner is the neighbors directly behind me, behind the bamboo screen. Nice people, but they tend to be out in their yard talking loudly on their cell phones. Or chasing their tortoise around, saying, “Baby Girl! Come here! No Baby Girl. Stop that, Baby Girl.”

But they aren’t around on Sunday mornings. My prayer garden is open.

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